I apologize. You do not meet my overly high beauty standards. For that reason, I think of you as the highly overused and saddening adjective ugly, and now I’m going to let my friends know of that. We’re going to pick apart everything we dislike about you unconsciously, because that’s all that we’ve been surrounded by our entire lives. Gossip and un-realness.
When you look at someone the first thing to come to mind is your criticism on their appearance. You cannot deny this. No one can. It is only a psychological fact. It is as if you were wired to perpetually scale the percentage of how much that person fits your perfect idealizations. In your head that sounds quite awful, but it is also the raw truth.
Although you can’t help the negative thoughts that wander your mind, what you can help is speaking aloud your unneeded opinions on one’s looks. People state clearly that they become feebly insecure once finding out what someone has said about them towards their face, body, and so on. Yet, for some reason those same people are also apart of the huge portion of society that in which judges mindlessly for the hell of it.
People become surprised with others when they state how beautiful they think someone to be. They’re shocked because when they look at that someone they don’t find him/her in any way beautiful. The way you look at one person is the complete opposite of how someone else looks at them. Why is that? Because like stated before, in all technicalities, it is as if you were wired to perpetually scale the percentage of how much that person fits your perfect idealizations. Which is true. If one does not reach your requirements they are automatically classified and deemed as unfit in your brain.
Do your insecurities and so called flaws even exist? Or is it just the fact that were you born into a world where you are left alone to feel as if you don’t meet up to society’s standards because that is what you’re used to – being treated and talked about like you aren’t prepossessing enough. If I’m being factual, all of that is the case.
Your flaws are only flaws to you because of the people you are surrounded by, and because of the false advertisements and magazines filled with such precise and attractive people. You crave to look like those people. You compare yourself to those people. You try to find yourself in those people. You try to configure if you can amount to any of those people. You become so overwhelmed in self hatred that you begin to doubt yourself.
I too have struggled with such personal hatred. Being told – to your face and behind your back – that your nose is too big, lips too massive, face too odd shaped, eyebrows too much, body too small, hair too curly, and even beyond that really does cause a spiraling sense of self worth and matter. I used to overthink it all. Picking myself apart whenever in range of my reflection, scared that I would never be accepted because I am not pretty enough. And now, with the person I am now continuing and growing to become, I don’t care. I am content with who I am as is and although I am not yet complete with it all I am learning, because how I see myself is so much more important than worrying about how others see me.
Questionably, rather than looking beyond a person’s looks and discovering their lovely and intellectual state of mind and kind heart, people would preferably demolish someone’s psyche and subconscious without any culpability. And I will never understand the cause for that.
Every girl is the daughter of a mother and father, or even a mother and mother, or father and father. Likewise, every boy is the son of a mother and father, or mother and mother, or father and father. No parent wants to see their child become destroyed and timorous at the hands of some silly overcritical boy or girl.
The faults you think yourself to have are all mere illusions, for they are just a figment of the insecurities in which society has created.